If you want to hear God laugh tell God your plan. Have you ever heard that saying? It’s one that comes back to me time and time again. As a person well into her forties now, I often look back and think about how grateful I am that I wasn’t in charge of everything. But I also wonder about the things that I kind of miss—even though they never happened. As a kid I wanted three kids. Two girls who sandwiched a boy, then after I had my oldest and I realized how cool she was I wanted her to have a sister and maybe two brothers, so they had…